Plebe boxing, I remember it like yesterday.
The boxing instructor was also my football coach. A Spartan-like Marine Corps Major whose only rule (and grading criteria) was if you backed-up, you failed. The only profound statement former unified heavyweight boxing champion Mike Tyson ever made was,
“everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.”
In a way, Coach was making it easy – he expected his fighters to meet their adversary and never back down. Forward – always. Or as the 5th Marine Regiment moniker proudly proclaims, “Retreat, Hell!” From fear and challenge I discovered an invaluable life lesson.
When was the last time you really felt scared? Chances are it was the last time you broke free from your comfort zone. That safe and overly repetitive process we call our daily routine is in-fact our comfort zone. Taking a chance, risking embarrassment, or potential failure takes a great act of courage. Although, not unlike stepping into the boxing ring, these challenges are worth taking if you desire to stretch your potential to the max.
What do you really have to lose? Well that’s a loaded question. Your comfort zone is likely tied intimately to the people, places, objects, and habits that are familiar to you. For some, this can be a good thing. If your surroundings are helping you achieve your goals, you might have a valid support structure. However, too often, it is the very comfort zone we have established that has failed to serve our most primal needs.
Bad habits and bad associations can be broken. True change begins when one’s behavior and thoughts are aligned. The first challenge is to get into the ring, facing down your enemy.
The best advice I can give you to prepare for this battle: backwards plan. Here are four easy steps:
- Establish your end state goal.
- Determine the logical steps one must take to achieve this end.
- Lay out reasonable benchmarks for reaching each of these essential progressions.
- Finally, stick to it.
Do no back-up. Consistency is key. Find ways to reinforce these new positive behaviors and be accountable to the support structure you have in place.
This is not easy stuff. Much like the boxing ring, you can get knocked down. And getting knocked down hurts. Sometimes it even leaves scars. As retired Army General Stanley McCrystal challenged, if you consider yourself a leader, the people you have counted on will you help you out. Most importantly. if you’re a leader, the people that count on you, need you on your feet.
If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. [Bruce Lee]